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Financial Abuse

Economic and financial abuse is designed to reinforce or create economic instability. In this way, it limits a woman’s choices and ability to access safety. Lack of access to economic resources can result in women staying with abusive men for longer and experiencing further harm.

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Types

  • Controlling money
  • Withholding money
  • Misspending money/gambling/drinking
  • Restricting access to money for basic necessities
  • Having to explain every expenditure to the abuser
  • Forced into debt
  • Forced to be responsible for all the money

Effects

  • Lack of basic necessities for self and children
  • No control over own money
  • Money becomes a focal point
  • Unable to leave because of lack of access to money
  • No money or financial independence (keeps women isolated and unable to gain educational and employment opportunities)
  • Powerlessness in decision making
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The cycle of violence theory
Dr L. Walker.

The cycle of violence theory states that abusive relationships generally consist of three phases.

Tension
Phase

A tension building phase

– where the abusive partner becomes irritable, controlling and potentially verbally abusive while the woman describes she feels like she is ‘walking on eggshells’.

Explosive
Phase

An explosive phase

– where violence and an aggressive outburst is present; and a honeymoon phase, in which the abusive partner wins back the woman with flowers and apologies.

Honeymoon
Phase

The “honeymoon phase.”

– when they do, this is more accurately described as the “manipulation phase”, because it is a coercive control tactic on the part of the abuser.

Barriers to leaving abusive and violent relationships

Frequently people ask, if things are that bad, ‘why doesn’t she just leave’ or ‘why does she stay?’ Leaving an abusive and violent relationship is not a straightforward process. There are many barriers to navigate in relation to safety, particularly as leaving is reported to be the most dangerous time. Up to 75% of homicides occur upon separation and there is an increase of violence for up to 2 years after separation.

  • Fear
    - of not being believed, of threats, of retaliation; of being killed; of the abuser hurting loved ones; of being stalked.
  • Children
    - fear for their safety if the abuser has threatened to hurt them if they leave; custody concerns (such as the abuser gaining custody, which still occurs in 50% of cases); child abuse that has occurred as a result of trying to leave in the past.
  • Isolation
    - from friends, family, community support and resources, as abusers often attempt to cut survivors off from support networks as a control mechanism. This often includes monitoring of a survivor’s texts, emails, and social media accounts.
  • Economic necessity
    - the abusive partner may control the finances or be the sole source of finances for the family; the abusive partner may have destroyed the survivor’s credit. Lack of resources makes it seem impossible to leave.
  • Homelessness
    - the abusive partner may threaten to force the survivor and possibly their children out of their living situation; the abusive partner may have full control over the survivor’s living situation.
  • Religious, cultural and/or family pressures to stay together
    - it is important to note that all cultures have both traditions of resistance to relationship abuse as well as forms of acceptance of it. Culture cannot excuse relationship abuse, though abusers may use ‘culture’ as a way to justify their choice to abuse. Abuse is not inherent or natural to any culture or group— it is always a choice.
  • Hope/belief
    - that a partner will change, often resulting from manipulative tactics by the abuser. This may also be influenced by concern for a partner’s wellbeing: fear that the partner will be arrested, imprisoned, deported etc. which may have consequences for retaliation, finances, and children.
  • Shame, stigma or belief
    - that the abuse is the woman's fault, largely because of societal myths and victim blaming.
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